“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
My family and I watched ‘The Shack’ again last night. I never read the book but had seen the movie when it was in the theatres. What a heartbreaking yet beautiful story. It came to mind as I was praying on my drive to work this morning. I had been listening to praise music and one of the songs that I had on my playlist was the song “I’ll Think About You” sung by We Are Messengers. I really thought about the scene in the movie. It was when Mack was carrying the lifeless body of his daughter to an outer building of the shack. Jesus and Sarayu (the Holy Spirit) opened a door to reveal a coffin that Jesus had prepared for Mack’s daughter.
It’s a heart-wrenching scene witnessing the agony Mack was dealing with. It was there that I realized a significant point. He had been holding onto the death of his daughter, unable to move forward. Unable to work through the pain. At that very moment he was handing Jesus, not just his daughter, but his pain as well. How significant that was and I completely missed it while watching the movie.
Don’t wallow in your grief.
You see, it reminded me that it is all too easy to sit in our pain. To wallow in our grief, our anger, our confusion on why what happened, happened. It’s easy to hold onto it and not want to look toward the future without that person or situation be part of it.
I cannot imagine the pain and grief of losing a child but I do know the pain of loss. It’s not always through death. It can often be the loss of a relationship. It’s easy to try and minimize that pain. You can feel foolish for being so devastated over an individual. But it does happen and we shouldn’t feel ashamed or embarrassed by that.
Daddy’s little girl
Thinking back I can tell you of several I’ve gone through. All different situations. The earliest one is when my oldest niece was born when I was fourteen. Up until then I was ‘daddy’s little girl’. Well, that ended pretty quickly once another baby was on the scene. I couldn’t voice it then- but I felt abandoned. That was followed by the loss of other relationships. The loss of my first marriage, friends that moved away…they all were so very difficult.
Then there are current situations. The most painful has been the lack of relationship with my husband’s kids. It’s easy for people to try to say that maybe they don’t like me when they didn’t take the time to know me. Meeting me briefly a handful of times a relationship does not make. And knowing there’s a granddaughter that we haven’t had the pleasure of seeing or meeting…It can be devastating and it can be so very, very easy to wallow in that pain. It’s also easy to place blame elsewhere. I did that myself briefly. Angry at the situation and what seemed to be lack of support.
Then we remember we have a ‘But God’. A God who promises to heal us, to walk with us through our difficult times…a God who says ‘Look at Me and not your situation’.
But God will redeem my life from the grave; he will surely take me to himself.
The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God stands forever.
Matthew 19:26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.
But if it is from God, you will not be able to stop these men; you will only find yourselves fighting against God.
To the roots of the mountains I sank down; the earth beneath barred me in forever. But you brought my life up from the pit, O LORD my God.
Friends, God NEVER leaves our side. As dark and dim things may seem He is there beside you. Hold onto His promises and you will begin to see His light guide you through the dark days. Laying our troubles at His precious feet is the only way we will find peace in our broken hearts.
I hope and pray that God gives you the strength and comfort you need for any situations you may be going through. Bring them to Him. Lay them at those very precious feet. He’s there…waiting for YOU.
God bless. In Jesus’ precious name.
*republished from May 2017