Christianity, faith, Healing

Real Moms

“Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things.” 1 Timothy 3:11

I can’t believe that it’s Mother’s Day (in the U.S.) already! This year is flying by. Doesn’t it seem like time is going by faster and faster? I just don’t have time to do half the things I need to. I wish I was as efficient at home as I am at work. Not sure how I managed that one, LOL.  I can not even imagine how the moms of today are doing it. Working, taking care of the housework and cooking, taking the kids to all their extra curricular activities…it was exhausting for me, and that was 15 to 20 years ago.

Even now, as a mom to two adult children, I wonder how I’m doing. I hope and pray that I didn’t do any real damage. Because I know that I made a lot, A LOT of mistakes while my kids were growing up. I can try and use the excuse that I was a single mom for most of their childhood (their dad and I have been divorced for 22 years now) but the fact of the matter is…I’m human. I’m going to make mistakes. I made mistakes on how I spoke to them, how I fed them, how I corrected bad behavior. I made mistakes on the type of people I let around them…and the list goes on.

I thank God that He can correct anything that I’ve done wrong in the past. My goal now, and even while they were growing up, is to show them how to be an honorable and caring person. Yes, I obviously messed up. Who hasn’t? The last thing I want to do is pretend that none of it happened. That, to me, would be like lying. We need to face the mistakes that we have made in our lives and allow God to heal us (and our kids), forgive us and allow those past situations to teach us.

As a woman it can be all too easy to see our friend, the woman from church or work, our own sisters or cousins and compare ourselves to how their doing as a mother and woman. They seem to have it all together. They have a great job, their kids are always put together, they have husbands that help out with everything…while we feel like we’re failing with every step we take. We’re struggling at work, our kids seem to have one issue after another, and our husbands-if we have one-like to spend their time in the yard, garage, watching sports-not helping around the house. It can be overwhelming.

The reality is though, that woman that seems to have it all together. Really doesn’t. She may have that great job but has to sacrifice time with her family because of it. Her kids seem to have no issues but continually give her a difficult time behind closed doors. Her husband helps her around the house but makes sure to remind her of that every chance he has. Maybe she’s very beautiful…she could still have a very low self esteem.

We all have struggles my friend. We all have our insecurities and weaknesses. My main insecurity is my weight. I’m a bit of a big girl right now…due to my weaknesses with food. I really enjoy food. I really enjoy food that is not particularly healthy for me. I am very upset with how I look right now. While at the gym with my son the other evening I caught a glimpse of how I look in one of the windows. It was really hard not to start crying. It’s still bringing tears to my eyes. And yesterday morning my daughter and I went to a Mother’s Day ‘Mad Hatter Tea Party’. I’m not one for wearing dresses since my legs are so chunky right now. So I bought a full length dress online so my legs didn’t show. It turned out to be beautiful but I felt ridiculous. I wore it anyway. -by the way-it turned out to be more of a ‘Mommy and Me’ tea party so my daughter and I were the oldest ‘Mommy and Me’ s there. Haha!

Being a woman at any point of history was/is a difficult thing. It is another reason that I appreciate the scriptures so much. The one above (1 Tim 3:11) gives a little guidance on behavior…be an honorable person, one that doesn’t lie or gossip and be faithful and trust-worthy. Proverbs 31 is also filled with beautiful words from God about women. It speaks that ‘a wife of noble character is worth more than rubies’ (v. 10), we ‘bring good not harm’ to those we love (v.12), she ‘does what she needs to do to provide for her family’ (v.15). She shows mercy and grace to those in need (v.20)..and more.

My favorite verse (v. 25)-‘She is clothed with strength and dignity, she can laugh at the days to come.’ Why can she laugh at the time to come? Because her strength comes from her faith in God. She knows that God keeps His promises. As a song from ‘We Are Messengers’ states; “When I walk in the valley I will not be afraid, I will hold to the promise that you’re walking with me. You lead me to waters where I can lay down to rest and I look up. When I look up- I see that love is a Man who was hanging on a tree-His heart pouring out for me…” (from their song-I Look Up).

You, my friend, are a beautiful person…and you are so very, very precious to God. He’s walking right beside YOU. Lean on Him. Trust me, He’s strong enough and He is always faithful.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the ‘Real Moms’ out there.

God bless and in His precious name.

Tara

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