“Say to the righteous that is shall be well with them, for they shall eat the fruit of their doings. Woe to the wicked! It shall be ill with him, for the reward of his hands shall be given him.” Isaiah 3: 10-11
Have you ever disliked (or even hated) someone so much that you wished bad things to happen to them? Or maybe you didn’t wish bad to happen to them but you wouldn’t have been sad if something did happen? I have. Too many times.
Hurt, anger and resentment are very slippery slopes. And they are slopes that are more a detriment to us than those that we are putting so much of our focus on. We spend time reliving the moments that caused all these awful feelings. “How dare they?” ” Look! They don’t even care what they’ve done!” And all the while the individuals either don’t know you’re feeling the way you do, or they may not care that you do.
Satan absolutely loves when we feel like this. And it gives him a foothold into our life. We end up listening to and paying attention more to his whispers into our hearts and minds on how bad the other person is than to God’s guidance on it. We think-How unfair the situation is…and sometimes, even often times the situation is unfair. And what the other person did to us is awful. But our hearts, when in Christ, aren’t meant to stay in such a state. This is one of the aspects that is a blessing for believers. We get to take all that hurt, anger, sorrow, resentment, questioning…and lay it at Jesus’ feet. He’s there to handle it for us.
I know, all too well, that it is often difficult to do this. Over the last several years my honey has been going through a situation that has caused him a lot of pain. That in turn has cause a lot of anger in me. It was all too easy to feel hatred and anger. To want JUSTICE done. But God gently reminded me that I am not a good judge of that. Only He is. Instead, I now pray for them. Because frankly with what has happened it is difficult for me to believe that they are truly believers. I, with all my heart, do not want to see any of them condemned to hell. I pray that God touches their hearts and brings them to Him.
To be completely honest, I still have the rare difficult day. Especially if it’s a special day for my honey. Like his birthday or Father’s Day. I used to say on those days- that those individuals will be before God on the day they die and nothing we do here could compare to that tragedy if they haven’t come to Him by then. I don’t dislike anyone that much anymore. The scripture above (Isaiah 3:10-11) tells us that the just will be rewarded for their doings and the wicked will get their comeuppance too. But is that what we really want?!
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
Jesus came, not just so we can lay down our burdens at His precious feet but to heal us as well. Psalm 147:3 is such a beautiful example of that. He heals the broken of heart-shattered hearts-and binds up their wounds-binds up; He’s wrapping us up within His arms. He’s mending us. The term for healing states ‘healing by stitching.’ It makes me think that while He heals us and is wrapping us up within His arms-we will have a tiny scar from some of our pain. And that scar isn’t meant to be there as a painful reminder but that we, with the help of our Lord, persevered through our dark days. And in turn we get to help others that may go through similar situations. There is nothing like being able to speak with someone who has suffered through a similar situation as you have.
Friends, I am going to ask you to pray for that person that hurt you. I know it’s not easy but praying for them will help you forgive them. Forgive them we MUST. We may not ‘feel’ the forgiveness for a while but continue to say-out loud-(even if just when your alone) that you forgive the person-by name. Let go of the control that situation has had on your heart and mind. Give it to Jesus. Let Him handle it for you…for He IS just.
I hope you have a beautiful day.
All my love and in His very precious name-JESUS!